Realistically Mother’s Day was created because there was a need. Not a need for something to be commercialized but a need to recognize the women who give us life, who sacrifice themselves, their bodies, their life practically to give all they have into the little shits that are children who ultimately don’t appreciate their mothers until they get something they want, the mom dies, or they are older and that “You were right” moment occurs (it will happen). Kids are assholes… there is no if, and or but about it. At some point in life your kid, my kid, that kid over there will all turn into little assholes. Some start early, some start in pre teens, some in teens, and the late bloomers as young adults. We have ALL gone through that stage and when we did it, it was hard on our parents/ step parents.
Damnit!!! Parenting is hard!! That’s why there is a father’s day and a mother’s day. There are amazing parents, step parents, adoptive parents, foster parents and guardians out there doing awesome jobs who for one day need a break. Tough shit you’re not getting that break lol. Sorry there is no such thing as breaks in parenthood. Sad truth… there is such thing as love and appreciation though and if it only lasts for a second, absorb all of it.
Let’s talk history for one second. Mother’s day has been around since Greek and Romans had festivals to celebrate Mother Rhea and Cybele which evolved into the Christian “Mothering Sunday”. In Europe on the 4th Sunday in lent it was “Mother Church” so people would return back to the church. Here in the good old U S of A it was Ann Reeves Jarvis of West Virginia in 1868 who created “Mother’s Day Work Clubs” to teach young women how to be good mothers. Right behind her in 1870 was abolitionist and suffragette Julia Ward Howe that created “Mother’s Day Proclamation,” a call to action that asked mothers to unite in promoting world peace, that day is now June 2nd. There were other women like Juliet Calhoun Blakely, a temperance activist who inspired a local Mother’s Day in Albion, Michigan, in the 1870s. The duo of Mary Towles Sasseen and Frank Hering, meanwhile, both worked to organize a Mothers’ Day in the late 19th and early 20th centuries. HOWEVER, Ann Reeves Jarvis’s daughter Anna Jarvis helped create the Official American Mother’s Day as a way of honoring the sacrifices mothers made for their children. She set off her efforts when her own mother died in 1905 and by 1914 Woodrow Wilson made it an official holiday nationally. She never got married or had kids of her own and was disgusted with how commercialized it had gotten.
Now we have today where we go out and pay $5 for a card, $20 or more for flowers that will die (because it’s like Valentines day and there is an up charge). We squeeze into restaurants to give ourselves a break from cooking along with the rest of our population. We are Anna’s nightmare. BUT let’s not forget why we have this day. It’s not so our kids can make us crap and tell us they love us (even if they don’t mean it lol) because face it they don’t really get it. Hell sometimes we as adults don’t really get it.
Today is about reflecting on our awesomeness even if no one does a damn thing for us. Not all mothers are deserving, I can personally say I know a few cum dumpsters that should never have had kids or had custody of kids. It happens BUT the rest of us have earned our right to today. Even if what we want includes our every day routine. Some women haven’t successfully conceived or have had to hear the horrid news that their hopes of motherhood have been ripped from them because their bodies won’t cooperate. In that case, tell those women how amazing they are. Most of them are aunts or god mothers. My neighbor, never had children. Her and her husband tried for many years, they turned to the church and prayed and now at 60 those hopes have died but she is an amazing Sunday School teacher. Her own mother died a few years ago so she is all alone but for a few hours every week she is those children’s guidance. Tell people like her she is awesome, be compassionate and loving. Mother’s day is different for everyone. For those that lost their mother’s but are mothers the day is bitter sweet, let’s give a hug for the grief, and promote the positive.
So today even if you do nothing else, tell a mom or any woman they are awesome. Appreciate your fellow woman. Do not exclude the step mom, some of those women work harder for family than some of the birth mothers. Let today be a day of good human interaction, a day of love, and support.
Happy Mother’s Day everyone… I need to go make breakfast and clean my house… because with out me none of that exists in my home even if today is Mother’s Day.
My gift today from James was 24 hours of his time…. I’ll take that over the crap flowers (he’s allergic to them) and card I end up tossing any way… because I’ll make him babysit for free and clean with that and help is totally the best gift of all.